{"id":10095,"date":"2018-12-12T00:18:11","date_gmt":"2018-12-12T05:18:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lettersandsodas.com\/books\/?p=10095"},"modified":"2018-12-12T00:18:11","modified_gmt":"2018-12-12T05:18:11","slug":"is-everyone-hanging-out-without-me-and-other-concerns-by-mindy-kalingthree-rivers-press-crown-random-house-2011","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/is-everyone-hanging-out-without-me-and-other-concerns-by-mindy-kalingthree-rivers-press-crown-random-house-2011\/","title":{"rendered":"Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy KalingThree Rivers Press (Crown\/Random House), 2011"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I haven&#8217;t watched <i>The Office<\/i> or <i>The Mindy Project<\/i>, and I don&#8217;t read many celebrity memoirs in general, but I found a copy of this book somewhere at some point (a Little Free Library? a giveaway pile at work? I don&#8217;t even remember) and thought it might be a good fun\/light read. Which it was, although I&#8217;m probably not its ideal audience\u2014there were a lot of pop culture references I didn&#8217;t get without Googling them. The thirty-seven pieces in the book are arranged somewhat chronologically, somewhat thematically, and range in length from very short (e.g. a one-page piece whose title is &#8220;Why Do Men Put On Their Shoes So Slowly?&#8221;) to somewhat longer (the longest piece, about <i>The Office<\/i>, is twenty pages). Some of the shorter pieces fell flat for me, but even not having watched <i>The Office<\/i>, I liked the section about it a whole lot (and even paused in my reading of that section to watch the pilot episode, which I liked: I&#8217;ll probably catch up on more of the show at some point). <\/p>\n<p>In general, I found the pieces about Kaling&#8217;s working life to be the strongest: it felt like she had interesting things to say about being a writer\/working in Hollywood\/how she got to where she was when she was writing this book, and those pieces tended to be a little longer, which I liked: it felt like there was more room in them for humor and good writing and good narrative flow. In addition to the piece about <i>The Office<\/i>, I really liked &#8220;Failing at Everything in the Greatest City on Earth,&#8221; &#8220;Day Jobs,&#8221; and &#8220;Matt &#038; Ben &#038; Mindy &#038; Brenda,&#8221; all of which are about Kaling&#8217;s pre-<i>Office<\/i> work\/artistic life, and which are also full of really great details about life in NYC in the early 2000s. Kaling is a few years older than me, but I&#8217;m close enough to her age that passages like this felt pretty relatable, even though my NYC experience at this time was that of a college student rather than a college grad:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>It was October 2001 and I lived in New York City. I was twenty-two. I, like many of my female friends, suffered from a strange combination of post-9\/11 anxiety and height-of-<i>Sex-and-the-City<\/i> anxiety. They are distinct and unnerving anxieties. The questions that ran through my mind went something like this:<\/p>\n<p><i>Should I keep a gas mask in my kitchen? Am I supposed to be able to afford Manolo Blahnik shoes? What is Barneys New York? You&#8217;re trying to tell me a place called &#8220;Barneys&#8221; is fancy? Where are the fabulous gay friends I was promised? Gay guys hate me! Is this anthrax or powdered sugar? Help! Help!<\/i> (66)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Other highlights for me included the title piece (which is about growing apart from childhood friends in high school\/bonding with a new friend about shared interests) and a list piece called &#8220;Non-Traumatic Things That Have Made Me Cry&#8221; (which includes Paul Simon&#8217;s <i>Graceland<\/i>, a line said by Colin Firth&#8217;s character in <i>Bridget Jones&#8217;s Diary<\/i>, and the music from <i>A Charlie Brown Christmas<\/i>, among other things).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I haven&#8217;t watched The Office or The Mindy Project, and I don&#8217;t read many celebrity memoirs in general, but I found a copy of this book somewhere at some point (a Little Free Library? a giveaway pile at work? I don&#8217;t even remember) and thought it might be a good fun\/light read. Which it was, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10095","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nonfiction"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10095","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10095"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10095\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10095"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10095"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lettersandsodas.com\/books\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10095"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}