The Empathy Exams by Leslie JamisonGraywolf Press, 2014

The eleven essays in this book all explore pain, in one way or another (or sometimes in several ways). All are well-written, some are structurally interesting, and I really liked some of them. The title essay, which is partly about Jamison’s job as a medical actor (presenting the symptoms of a disease/the story of a fictional patient to med school students conducting simulated examinations) is really satisfying: Jamison talks about her experience with the med students when she’s acting, and also about her experiences with empathy or lack thereof around the abortion she had and the heart surgery she had, and also about her feelings around empathy when her brother had Bell’s palsy. (This essay appeared in The Believer, and you can read the whole thing online here.) I love this, which is from that first essay: “Empathy means acknowledging a horizon of context that extends perpetually beyond what you can see” (5). Also, this: “Empathy is a kind of care but it’s not the only kind of care, and it’s not always enough” (17).

The second essay, which is about Morgellons (read it here) was also really interesting. Jamison writes about going to an annual conference in Austin for self-described “morgies,” and the weirdness of wanting to be empathetic/believing in the pain of the people she meets, without necessarily believing in some of their explanations for it. The travel/place-themed essays in this book (like one about going to a writers’ conference in Mexicali and hearing about/thinking about the experience of living in parts of Mexico that are very affected by the violence of the drug trade, or about getting mugged/punched in Nicaragua, or about visiting the silver mines of Potosí, or going on a “Gang Tour” in LA) didn’t resonate as strongly with me, and I’m not sure why, though there are interesting bits. I did love The Immortal Horizon, which is about the Barkley Marathons, a 100+-mile race over very rough/wild terrain in Tennessee, in which Jamison’s brother competed in 2010.

The book’s last essay, which is about female pain, seems to be one of those things people either really like or really don’t (based on the Goodreads reviews I’ve seen, anyway), but I felt conflicted. There were parts of it I liked because Jamison is around my age, and I relate to passages like this, because these are the song lyrics of my adolescence, too:

I grew up under the spell of damaged sirens: Tori Amos and Ani DiFranco, Björk, Kate Bush, Mazzy Star. They sang about all the ways a woman could hurt: I’m a fountain of blood in the shape of a girl. When they’re out for blood I always give. We are made to bleed and scab and heal and bleed again and turn every scar into a joke. Boy you best pray that I bleed real soon. Bluffing your way into my mouth, behind my teeth, reaching for my scars. Did I ever tell you how I stopped eating, when you stopped calling? You’re only popular with anorexia. Sometimes you’re nothing but meat, girl. I’ve come home. I’m so cold. (202)

And she quotes Anne Carson, which always wins points with me, and I like the way the essay brings together all these different bits and pieces (a female character in Dickens, Lena Dunham’s Girls, Stephen King’s Carrie, and more), and I like the idea of “the possibility of representing female suffering without reifying its mythos” (214). But I have issues with the gender binary, which this essay doesn’t really question, and I think maybe part of the problem with “female pain” is failing, in some cases, to see pain as an individual issue/experience, not in a gendered way (which I think Jamison gets at, right at the end of the essay, but not enough).


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4 responses to “The Empathy Exams by Leslie JamisonGraywolf Press, 2014”

  1. Jenny @ Reading the End Avatar

    I was reading a book this week about genocide and the psychology of that, and one thing they said was that humans have this ability — and some people are better at it than others — to exclude categories of people from their circle of empathy. Which is obviously applicable to genocide, but what I thought was so interesting is that the author talked about how lawyers and doctors have to do this too, to some extent, or they wouldn’t be able to practice their profession. I’d be interested to read about how med students respond in these med-actor situations.

  2. Heather Avatar
    Heather

    Oh, that is really interesting. One of the things that Jamison talked about was how when she had her heart surgery, she wanted assurance rather than empathy – not that she wanted her doctor to be callous, but it seemed like maybe she wanted a little bit of emotional remove to be better able to hold her fears in check.

  3. james b chester Avatar

    The topic of Empathy keeps popping up in my more or less random blog reading. I think it’s Reading in Bed where it’s been a topic for a couple of entries.

    I also think I’m going to see if my library has this book. Since the universe keeps throwing the topic my way, I’m going to go ahead and read about it. 😉

  4. Heather Avatar
    Heather

    Funny that it keeps coming up! I’ll be curious to see what you think of this book, if you end up reading/blogging about it!

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